You Didn’t Choose the Pain—But You May Have Learned to Tolerate It At first, Maya thought she had finally found someone special. He was charming, attentive, and intensely interested in her. During the first few weeks, he sent long messages, talked about their future, and made her feel as though she was the only person who truly understood him. Then things changed. He began cancelling plans. He disappeared for days and returned with affectionate messages. Whenever Maya asked what was wrong, he told her she was “overthinking” or being “too sensitive.” But instead of leaving, Maya tried harder. She became more understanding. More patient. Less demanding. She told herself: “Maybe he’s stressed.” “Nobody is perfect.” “If I communicate better, things will improve.” “He has been through a lot.” “I just need to show him that I won’t give up.” Months later, Maya barely recognised herself. She constantly checked her phone. She apologised even when she had done nothing wr...